I focused strongly on learning time management skills in my sales and management career.  The methodology I studied focused on first articulating your values and overarching goals, and setting your long-term and short-term goals to move you towards the overarching goals and values. As I began to articulate my values, I found very little overlap with my life.

I have worked for 25 years to align my values and my life.  In 1995, I began articulating my goals for my second career.  In order to make sure that I continued to increase the overlap of these two circles, I spent time formalizing a list of values for my second half, and what goals I would set to live according to those values.  Here's my list, and I still find value in reflecting on it.  Have you crafted a list of the values you want to guide your life?  I invite you to do so.  It will be wonderfully helpful over time in setting the course of your life and finding God's faint path.

1.     Love my Family

a.     Love Unconditionally

b.     Give them Time: Do what they want to do

c.     Respect the Individual: value differences

2.     Grow in Spirituality

a.     Grow my relationship with God

                                               i.     Attend Church Weekly

                                             ii.     Seek God’s Vision

                                            iii.     Eliminate 7 deadly sins

b.     Worship in a Community Church

                                               i.     Demonstrate Leadership

                                             ii.     Teach Senge’s Fifth Discipline principles

                                            iii.     Create Learning Organization

3.     Maintain my Health

a.     Exercise 3 times a week

b.     Weigh 220

4.     Honesty

a.     Give honest feedback

b.     Credibility means trust

5.     Empathy

a.     Listen and Understand

b.     See both sides of an issue

6.     Learning

a.     Value Lifelong Learning

                                               i.     Gain an Executive MBA

7.     Teaching

a.     Developing People

                                               i.     Clarify goals and purpose

                                             ii.     Motivational work environment

b.     Leading Learning Organization

                                               i.     Create Learning Laboratory

8.     Coaching

a.     Encourage Self-Actualization

b.     Build Self-Esteem

9.     Self-Esteem

a.     Doing the above will provide

10.  Grow in Stewardship

a.     Use my talents for a purpose

b.     Support community outreach

11.  Letting Go

a.     Recruit the best and brightest

b.     Give Authority

                                               i.     Recruit leaders and let them

c.     Delegate

                                               i.     Joy is the success of others

12.  Humility

a.     Exhibit pride in others

13.  Silence

a.     Listen and learn

                                               i.     Cannot listen without silence

b.     Learn and lead

14.  Show Determination

a.     Complete the task well

b.     Give the desired results

15.  Self-Actualization

a.     Develop Sense of Purpose

                                               i.     Help others find their dreams

b.     Pursue Dreams

Sum it up in two words: Wise Leader

Have you ever done that exercise where you write your own obituary?  As I thought about how I would like to be remembered, I came across this poem entitled "Success" and found it wonderfully aspirational.  This would represent ending well for me. Leaving well is always a challenge.  May you do so in each stage of your life.


He has achieved success
who has lived well,
laughed often, and loved much;

who has enjoyed the trust of
pure women,

the respect of intelligent men and
the love of little children;

who has filled his niche and accomplished his task;

who has left the world better than he found it
whether by an improved poppy,
a perfect poem or a rescued soul;

who has never lacked appreciation of Earth's beauty
or failed to express it;

who has always looked for the best in others and
given them the best he had;

whose life was an inspiration;
whose memory a benediction.

--1904 Bessie Anderson Stanley


Success was the winning entry in a contest run by Brown Book Magazine in 1904. Bessie won a cash prize of $250, which paid off the mortgage on the house, among other things.